The Musings of a Pen...I Gotcha Back By Aaliyah

What up Paper Chasers, it's ya gurl LoudPen with this week's Musings, which is dedicated to "I Gotcha Back" by Aaliyah. First off, let me announce that next week I will be featuring a group of female guest Bloggers to discuss the topic What Women Want. Each Blogger will pick a song and discuss how it relates to a current/past relationship. I didn't give them any direction on how to write & execute, I only asked that they pick a song and discuss it in the context of a relationship. Basically, it's going to be a free for all, so, get ready and make sure you check the blog next week.

I have picked a song of my own, i.e., "I Gotcha Back" by Aaliyah. This song has been near and dear to my heart for years, but, it is only now that I am older that I'm finally understanding the meaning of the song. This is one of those songs that you can truly learn from, especially, if you're a woman in a relationship or seeking a relationship.

The reason I asked my fellow lady Bloggers to participate in the guest post series is because, I wanted to highlight other female Bloggers who each have their own unique voice and style, but also, because it is high time that young Black women come together and discuss who we are and what we want from men. Lately there has been so much talk about Black women and what we are doing right/wrong in relationships but no one is talking about what the men are doing. It's unfair because it places too much emphasis on the woman and not enough on the man.

I am not saying that women do everything right and that we shouldn't take responsiblity for our actions; I'm just saying that to make assumptions and assertions that it's all on us is ridiculous & again, unfair. Essentially, I am trying to drive home the fact that there is always two sides to every story and it's time for the ladies to talk about their woes and gripes. I for one, have been struggling with being unable to let go of past hurts, and being bitter. However, I feel much better and I'm putting forth effort to get into the game again.

But really, the original point of this post was to talk about the song, "I Gotcha Back"; I'm sorry I got off topic but y'all oughta know by now that I can't help it. Anywho, this song is perfect in execution, lyrical content, and it has tremendous substance. Personally, I am going to be imitating every word spoken in this song especially if I decide to enter into a relationship. Not only does it have a great message, but, it really does work. Following Aaliyah's advice could definitely keep that guy you've been feeling around for a long time.

As women, we sometimes moan & groan, and gripe about things that don't really matter. Also, sometimes we don't say what we want but instead drop hints hoping the guy will somehow magically catch on. In addtion to this, we want the guy to come save us as if we are some helpless damsel in distress instead of saving him. What I mean to say is, if you want someone to be there for you, do the same for them. Tell him you care, show him you appreciate him, basically just stroke his ego and tell him how great he is. It's also helpful to pretend you don't know how to do things even if you do...guys like to solve & fix things so let them do what they do. These are the lessons I have been picking up from friends, my mom, and fab chicks like the late Aaliyah. I'm tired of talking now and I'm sure I've said too much.

This is the Pen and these are my Musings.